Birth Story written by Annette of Forestdale, QLD
Most people would say I had a dream pregnancy and for the most part, I did. I suffered no morning sickness, had no medical problems during the pregnancy and really only put on baby weight. What a lot of people didn’t realize is the stress and anxiety that came with this pregnancy.
In November 2014, my husband and I learnt at our 12 weeks ultrasound with our second child, that he had no chance of survival. He had severe hydrops and a large cystic hygroma caused by noonans syndrome. We were advised to terminate the pregnancy but I couldn’t make that choice as if forever question if I had done the right thing. He fought hard but his heart failed him at 20 weeks and I went on to delivering our little boy Ty Benjamin.
My Rainbow Baby
This pregnancy,after the loss of Ty, came with so much worry that scarred the usual joyous feeling of a pregnancy. I worried that this baby may have the same condition. I worried when I couldn’t feel the babies kicks and was on edge that something else could go wrong. Once you have had a loss, you become very aware of how common miscarriages and stillbirths are.
To help with my worry I chose to do post natal yoga with Suzie and found that it really helped with my stress levels, relaxation and to keep my body fairly fit for labour. I managed these classes until the week before I had my baby. Suzie’s classes really were suited to my body’s ability as my pregnancy progressed.
Birth Day of My Rainbow Baby Corey – 16th November 2015
So the day came that I was to meet my long awaited baby. I was induced at 38 weeks on the 16th of November 2015, as my obstetrician was concerned with how much weight the baby had put on in a week. This day was 10 days earlier than the one-year anniversary of losing Ty.
It began at 5am, my waters were broken and I was already 3 centimetres dilated. The Pitocin drip began and increased until contractions were regular. I utilized the shower and the bouncy ball and continued to be as mobile as possible. I managed with no pain relief and at around 2.30pm I felt the urge to push. I was surprisingly calm despite the memories of my previous labour.
Unfortunately due to having a previous caesarean, the doctors were only happy to let me push for an hour. At the end of this hour, my baby had not progressed far enough. It was just out of reach for instrumental intervention and I was told I required another caesarean. I was upset but by that point just wanted my healthy baby in my arms.
After being prepped for my caesarean, I lay there waiting to see whether it was a boy or girl and what our baby would look like and soon after, the sheet was dropped and I’m shown this huge 8 pound 14 ounces of beauty -my rainbow baby boy Corey Tyler Pearce. I couldn’t stop the tears from flowing. I loved that I had another boy. Not to replace Ty but so I could see what Ty may have been like.
My thoughts are, Corey was a gift to us, hand picked by Ty. “Rainbow Babies” are the understanding that the beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. When a rainbow appears, it does not mean that the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and the clouds. Storm clouds may still loom over but the rainbow provides a counterbalance of colour, energy, and much needed hope.”